I need some advice from you moms out there.
I will
be going on a trip in early February and will be leaving Froggy and her
daddy at home. I'll be gone for four days. For part of that Froggy will
be with her MeMe and will probably not notice my absence. The rest of it
she'll be with Daddy, at home, and it'll be obvious to her that I won't
be here.
She gives me a hard time most of the time but
she's stuck like glue to me. It's not very odd for her daddy to be gone
when she gets home or when she goes to bed, but I'm ALWAYS here if
she's home. There's only been a few times that she's stayed home with
her daddy while I've been out and that has only ever been for a few
hours at a time. If I sleep in one morning she asks Daddy nonstop where I
am, what's wrong with me, and whether she can go wake me up. She is
just used to me being here when she is.
So what I'm wondering is how to handle me leaving town. Should I
try preparing her for it ahead of time, and if so, how? Would you stick
with a simple little chat or should I make it a point to go away for a
few hours at a time and leave her with Daddy? Should I just go and let
her grandma and daddy sort it out after?
The reason it has me so puzzled is that she's still somewhat
limited in the questions she'll ask. I don't really know if she'll ask
where I am or if she'll just stand there and scream. Honestly, I'm not
sure if Daddy can handle her alone like that, but he insists that it'll
be fine. I don't want to throw her for a loop but at the same time,
since she won't always give me feedback I have no idea how much she
understands.
She's only four, so keep that in mind. It's probably hard on any
kid who is used to being with Mommy all the time but factoring in the
autism, I have no idea what to expect. She'd probably hardly notice if
Daddy was gone for four days but I know she'll notice I'm gone.
What would you do?
I want to make this as painless as possible for everyone involved
and try to leave with things settled enough that I can enjoy myself and
not worry the whole time I'm gone.
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
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I'd be inclined to trust your husband--it'll be fine. Though I like your idea of a trial run for a few hours. And all that being said, you have to do what you feel is right as her mom. Sounds like it's going to be a fun trip! I'm curious where you're going. :)
ReplyDeleteWell..maybe u want to try reading some books to her - like the book "just me and me dad"..telling her it's fun to spend some time alone with him..
ReplyDeleteSince ur trip will be in Feb..maybe u can try going out once a wk leaving her along with ur husband for a few hours (is that possible..?)
Think it'll be fine..are u going for a short holiday..?
Thanks, both of you! I'll try the short trips out then and see how it goes. I know they'll both be okay but I can't help but worry.
ReplyDeleteHow about this: come visit the other blog and I'll write all about the trip there for you. :)